Me [19 M] with my GF [18 F] Two Months, Not sure how to keep conversation going in Long Distance relationship

Yeah, it's definitely very hard to start and maintain a long-term relationship, especially if you haven't spent significant time together in the first place. You two don't have a foundation of shared experiences, so it's going to be more difficult. Try not to pigeonhole yourself into the idea that you must think of her as the only girl for you. I'm not saying you should be disloyal to her or to give up prematurely, but to remain aware of the fact that pursuing a relationship with her may not be the best option for the both of you. You're both going to enter your 20's, which is a significant time of self-discovery and exploration; what you know and understand will change exponentially during these formative years. As undesirable as it sounds, your priorities will most likely change, and you both may become attracted to other people around you. It's not wrong; you just have to evaluate whether you can meet each other's needs via long-distance, or if either of you is better suited to date someone else. Again, it seems like a bleak picture, but relationship are more than just about romance. Even other more mundane factors like time-zone difference, physical location, and the logistics of arranging time together, can vastly alter the viability of a romantic relationship.

At this point, I suggest keeping in touch with her. If you can arrange to visit each other often enough (and afford the associated traveling expenses), then you'll have better chances of sustaining a long-distance relationship. Some people can tolerate long-distance for years, others can't get past 6 months. If you can't see yourself committing to a long-distance relationship right now, just keep in touch with her as a friend (if you can do it), and bring it up again down the road should you cross paths. You never know, by then you could be dating someone else, or she could be too. OR, it's possible you won't be interested in each other the same way anymore. But it's still worth finding out. Personally speaking, I was interested in a girl back in high school, but I didn't ask her out because I didn't think I could keep a relationship as I went off to university. But I knew her as a friend first, and reconnected with her after she entered my university as well. Of course, being in the same university was much more conducive to starting a relationship, but my point still stands. After we both reached a place physically closer together, I propositioned her, and we started dating. I hope this helps you determine your best course of action.

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