1) Maybe he's going to surprise you with something on Valentines day, and he's downplaying the situation to make it a bigger surprise. I mean, first valentines day together and he doesn't want to do anything? Even for the most lethargic man that seems a little odd.

But who knows, maybe he doesn't want to do anything. You've expressed your feelings, give it some time and see or express the issue more seem to be your only two options left. Do what you feels best.

2) Maybe the surprise he talked about is going to be ready on valentines... I really think you're stressing about valentines a little much. Maybe bring it up one more time then drop it, see what happens and if nothing happens, express how it meant something to you, you expressed your want to do something special or whatever twice and he didn't do shit and now you're really upset.

3) I cant help but feel that, maybe he doesn't do anything anymore because he feels the small things arent good enough. I don't know, maybe it's a bit of a stretch but as a guy, I feel we (guys) often forget about the little things and how much they mean, and we want to go all out and build a castle for our princess to live in, and shower her with crazy gifts and give her the fairy tale she deserves in our heads and when we can't do that, we forget that something like a random little gift means just as much. I'm not trying to make excuses, just maybe give some insight into your boyfriends thought process. Not saying he for sure thinks this way, but I think its a possibility. As for how to remedy such an issue, I figure either talking, which you apparently have done, and making a big fuss over the little things he does could be good ways to get him to do it more. People love praise, everyone loves to feel like what theyre doing is great and awesome and whatever, so when he does something small, maybe make a huge fuss out of it, act like a 16 year old girl who just got her first love letter and is gushing over it with her friends... Show him how much it means to you instead of just saying it.

Other than that, you've got to compromise on some things. If his libido is lower than yours, I'd say you should take a lot more baths or find a good drawer friend to help you out. It's not the same, but it seems to be either that, cheat or break up over it, so I guess it comes down to what you feel is right for you.