Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 5 years with a 2 year break in the middle, we have nothing in common.

Do you still love her? Are you still in love with her? Does she love you and is in love with you? Is she good to you? Is she currently making money and being financially responsible and in the track to long term financial stability (I ask because after having a kid that young this incredibly important)? Are you being financially responsible and planning for the future (if 10 years from now you're broke because you spent your youth playing house you'll be so resentful is not even funny)? Do you have a similar sex drive? Has she ever cheated on you or have there been any shady business?

If the answer to any of this questions is no I would bail immediately, like literally run, you're playing with fire and seriously risking your future (hell if it was really me I would probably bail anyway coz fuck having a step kid at 21). On the other side, you've stuck by her side thru all this so I imagine you must have loved her a lot and she must be very special, if the answer to all the questions is yes I would consider going to therapy, the worst should be already over and real love and loyalty and are actually very valuable and hard to find.

You say you have nothing in common which is worrying but is kinda normal for long term partners to go thru periods where they feel alienated, I think the most important question is if you're in love with her, otherwise everything else is null.

Stop worrying about the baby, you say you trust you gf to be a great parent on her own and she wont remember you if you leave now anyway. If you wanna fuck that baby life the fastest and surest way to do it is raising her in a home with dysfunctional parents (I am talking from experience). I f the answer to any of the questions is not you would really be doing the baby a favour by leaving.

Lastly NEVER EVER FUCK WITHOUT A CONDOM, DO NOT TRUST ORAL BIRTH CONTROL BECAUSE THOSE THINGS FAIL AND IF YOU GET HER PREGNANT AGAIN NOW YOUR LIFE AND THE LIFE OF EVERYONE INVOLVED WILL BE FUCKED

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