Me [22/F] with my BF [27/M] of almost 3 years, how do I get him to accept that he can't fix the damage he's done to our relationship (our sex life, specifically)? (Kind of long)

Girl you don't need this guy to father your children. Do you want your children to grow up thinking that accepting a lifetime of unhappiness is normal and acceptable? Can you imagine seeing your future daughter's face mirroring your own expressions? It would break my heart personally to give birth to a child only to introduce her to a life of misery.

This might be an unpopular opinion but I'm 31 and real unsure about how realistic it will be for me to have children within a loving relationship at this point in my life. So I'll share with you. I want to be a mother more than almost anything else. You don't need a partner to do it. You need stability, income, support from loved ones, and a heart full of love to give. You can adopt or get a sperm donor. You can accomplish your dreams without relying on the man you're with currently. And this is all beside the fact that you're only 22 and you have plenty of time to dump this dude, be single, travel, build up your resume, date around, and find a dude who makes you feel good about yourself.

Do not lead yourself down this path of unhappiness just because you want a family. Your current relationship is very clearly tearing down your self esteem, and if there's one thing you want to teach your future daughter, it's how to love herself.

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