Me [22 M] with my best friend [23 M] of 5 years, his new girlfriend is uncomfortable that I am gay, am I right to feel angry, upset and resentful?

I guess what I am saying is when do I know to stop being allowed to be treated lesser (which ruins my confidence) and move on, or try to fix a problem.

I recently dealt with this problem in a different situation (my ex and I broke up, she began dating someone else within the group immediately, and when that person insisted on having my ex around, my ex insisted that I not be around, and so I stopped getting invited to shit). I felt that this showed that I was less valuable to the group. The group felt that since there were two of them and one of me, they trumped. I attempted to argue that since my ex was the one making the problem (I was fine with seeing her), then she should be the one not getting invited to stuff. They agreed that whoever was causing waves would no longer be invited to stuff. I continued to not get invited to stuff.

At a certain point, in my personal opinion, you need to make one of two choices: You either need to divorce your personal view of yourself from the situation, or you need to remove yourself from the situation.

Basically, if you can manage to stop what's going on from making you feel shitty, then I would do that and try to maintain your relationships.

I was unable to do this. I felt miserable and excluded and lonely even when I did manage to get an invite. I constantly felt like I was an afterthought: Primarily because I was an afterthought.

If you are unable to be mentally and emotionally stable while hanging out with people, you should remind yourself that friends exist to improve your life. If an entire group of people are collectively not improving your life, it is a huge waste of time to bother hanging out with them. You could invest every second of that time into a hobby that would result in a new social circle.

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