I know how you feel. My boyfriend was and still is a night owl when I first met him. I’d be up at six and ready to go at 7am. But ever since starting a second job working nights, I’m up at 10 and not ready to go until 3pm on my days off. All while working my other job of early morning starts a few days a week at 5/6am. It was really hard for me in the beginning with just being an early morning riser and him being asleep until 10am.

As you probably know, it’s hard as to change a sleep schedule. Although my boyfriend starts at 8am every day for work he’s still in bed until 7:20 and on weekends he will sleep as long as he can usually. In the past we have been caught out with the fucked up sleep schedule... if we wanna do something we, go somewhere and we only have the afternoon daylight, it has to be close to home etc.

I think you are doing everything you can to try and get him to do stuff with you. Maybe a good test for him would be asking him to plan something? Everything about how the day will run, where you are going, what time you are leaving, what’s for lunch etc. maybe let him pick the activity to see if that generates his interest? Otherwise I hate to say it, seems like he’s gotten to the stage of a relationship where he’s extra comfy and doesn’t feel the need to impress you. Not sure if that’s the right word, but it’s the best way I can describe how I have felt in the past in long term relationships