Me [24 F] with my date [31 M] of 2 weeks - he either wants to save money for future family or travel the world within 1-2 years. I think I'm wasting his time.

I'm not sure I see where he was saying he wanted to rush things or get married right away. He was just telling you about his long-term goals, both of which seem to be in pretty divergent directions, which kind of means they are still reasonably abstract and far-off. I read that your previous boyfriend wanted to rush things, so I can see how you might interpret this current guy's goals as being on the same timeline. The obvious answer is to talk to him about it. Nothing you've written gives the impression he actually dumped a huge commitment on you so much as you felt the pressure of him having goals being equal to a request for commitment, which I don't think is the case.

Meanwhile, you do have to pose the question to yourself as to what future goals you have for yourself. Are you moving towards family? Child-free and traveling the world? Single and independent? I suspect some of your fears and avoidance of talking with him lies with you maybe not having your own long-term goals or ideals really identified. That's not to say you are aimless; more that your mind is more on the next few months, not the next few years. Sure, you know what you don't want to do in the next 1-2 years like get married and start having kids, yet that still leaves the question of what you want do in those 1-2 years.

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