Me [24F] with my new guy [34 M] of 3 mo, he wants me to get female BC but I don't want to, should I break up

Thanks for the thoughtful reply.

Assuming you actually mean "can't perform" and not "doesn't like how they feel", I don't understand why you're blaming it on him. He can't just wave a magic wand and make it stop happening.

I am not blaming it on him. I am blaming this situation that he's put me in, albeit involuntarily. He actually loses his erection with condoms (not just not like how they feel).

It's normal to have to make compromises and sacrifices in a relationship. It's hard to tell if you're just checked out of this one, but if this is a normal attitude, no it's not really fair.

I understand that compromise and sacrifices are required in a long term relationship. I just think that this is asking too much for a 3 MO THING. I admit that I am not head over heel in love with him, but that's who I am as a person. It usually takes me 6 mo and longer to really fall in love and until then I don't like being put in a situation where I have to make significant sacrifices for what's virtually a stranger.

Even if you do end up breaking up, that might be worth letting him know (before you break up, please, otherwise it's cruel

As in letting him know the reason why I ended things was mainly due to sexual incompatibility?

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