I watch twitch ALL THE TIME for mostly League and Hearthstone. I'm a fan of Trump, Coach, Hafu, Reckful (don't hold this against me), Forsen, Reynad, etc. It's so cool to see the behind the scene stuff in your post!

My boyfriend and I were in kind of the same situation. I work in a comfortable IT job where I can watch streams while I work and play/talk games with my coworkers during breaks. He works in a desolate lab that's constantly monitored 70 hours a week with no pals. He hates his job and started resenting me pretty heavily about one year ago.

Once I identified the cause of upset, I tried to help him structure his free time for maximum enjoyment. I started -- like you -- to do the dishes and cook and clean more because I have the energy and don't mind it. The real key was getting him to identify the hobbies he loves, which narrowed down to playing music and Hearthstone. We started structuring his free time around playing music gigs, teaching music students, and playing mass amounts of Hearthstone together. The last piece didn't really fall in place until I finally picked up Hearthstone more seriously. If there's a common hobby that doesn't revolve around you/streaming/gaming that you could share with her and encourage her toward (or even participate) when she's not at work, that might be helpful! Helping someone find what they love and foster it is a huge part of a relationship.

My boyfriend isn't out of the woods, but he makes about half his salary playing and teaching music now. The idea that he might be able to quit his job someday has really helped with his resentment. He feels more in control. Honestly, if I can get a substantial management raise or I find a job that pays just a bit more, I'd support him quitting his job at this point. He's worked really hard to find bands that pay and students who want to pay him pretty well to learn.