Sorry. I was trying to hide details, but I did it very poorly. Lemme just be honest and then erase this post in an hour or so.

I'm a grad student, and when I was admitted we agreed to make that move to city near Canada after I get back from a research trip occurring this summer. We'd live in new city for a year while I finish my master's then we stay if we both like it, or we move to where I get accepted to a PhD program. My husband wants to work for a new company, so it'd work well for us to make that move to the city near the border. Ideally we'd stay there for my PhD too, so it was going to be along term move unless McGill or some other awesome university accepted me.

Well, stuff happened and now I'm going to be applying to PhD programs outside the US. We both agree to this, and still have that idea if I don't get accepted or the offers suck we stay in the city near Canada. This was the idea until last week. It was very open ended, but we made four plans for four countries including how to get permanent residency there. Prior we were just going for my PhD, but now we may be living there after as well - or at least want the option to!

But, we're both dual citizens with one of the 7 countries, and it looks like funding for what I research is taking a giant nose drive. I'm wondering if we should just skip the whole living near Canada, and just move straight there.

I'm may lost health care cause of preexisting conditions. Detention is just us being dual citizens and being held at the airport while they check we're full citizens vs whatever. It's just something I don't wanna deal with when I come back from my research trip.