Me [27 F] with my parents [50's M/F] lost my dogs while on my honeymoon.

I think it's completely understandable to be angry and upset about what your parents did. However, to give some perspective, I doubt they did it with malicious intend. I'm not saying what they did was right but they must have had their reasons to disobey your instructions.

Perhaps they disagreed with leashing the dogs all the time and strongly believe that they should be free to roam and so they let the dogs run wild in the hope you'd never find out. Which is sneaky and disrespectful but not necessarily malicious.

This obviously does mean they can't be trusted with pets (and possibly children) again because they will just do what they think is right and I certainly wouldn't give them those kind of responsibilities again. That said, It doesn't necessarily mean that they are bad people but rather just stubborn about following their own believes and this time they were in the wrong.

I think the relationship with your parents is salvageable you just can't trust them to be respectful of your wishes again when you're not around but that doesn't mean you can't continue a relationship with them in the future so I wouldn't burn all bridges.

For now, the emotions are too raw. Tell them how disappointed and hurt you are about what they've done but for now just focus on finding your dogs and deal with your parents later when you've had more time to think about the situation. I wouldn't just break off with them on an emotional whim as some other people are encouraging you to do.

They've demonstrated they feel terrible about their mistake by doing everything they can to find the dogs. We're they wrong and disrespectful? Hell Yeah! Are you right to feel angry and upset? Hell Yeah! Are your parents horrible and need to be cut off? I don't think so... But only you can decide this, I'd just give it some time.

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