Me [27/m] been together with gf (25/f] for 9 years. We're in pause, and she's having massive issues.

Hey there envoystorm. Thank you so much for your time and your answer.

It's unreasonable to try and force yourself to never find anyone else attractive or think of them in a sexual way - what really matters in my opinion is if you act upon those thoughts.

Never did it again. I always informed her of basically everything after that pause.

Is asexuality discussed in italy? Or is it possibily due to past trauma in regards to no sex?

Well yes. Among all, she thought she is asexual. She also had a past trauma very early in a childhood. Nothing physical. A peeping tom piece of shit.

It sounds like you two need to talk some more. Her saying she doesn't love you is a pretty big statement. Does she want to work on this too or is she pretty much done with the relationship>

She doesn't know. When I ask her, she says she doesn't know.

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