Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] 10 months, told me she slept with someone else and that she misses me

Reading your post I get a sense, that there is something that doesn't quite add up.

Within the month of breaking up, she told me she was "seeing someone".

Long story short, she met a guy, he asked her out, and he fucked her.

Today she confronted me about my friend then told me about she slept with this guy and that she misses me.

To me these things seem to conflict. So what is it: was she dating or just having casual sex?

And also: "she met a guy, he asked her out, and he fucked her" - she isn't passive being thrown around out of her control. She met a guy, she went on a date with him, and she fucked him. The onus is on her, so don't put it on him. Not saying she did anything wrong, but your use of language seems to indicate, that you want to distance her from her own actions. You just shouldn't do that mate. She's a grown person. The responsibility for her actions are her's alone.

Who took the initiative to end your relationship in the first place: her or you? I get, that you wrote it was a mutual decision, but one of you gotta have set the break up in motion.

She says she feels horrible and that she never thought I had strong feelings for her.

She thought I was having sex with one of my close female friends (I was not) and I've told her many times I haven't. Today she confronted me about my friend then told me about she slept with this guy and that she misses me.

What is the implications of her train of thought? Did she break up with you because she thought you were cheating? Did she put it on the table to level out her own transgressions against you or your relationship (not saying she actually did anything wrong!)?

Why does she feel horrible? Is it because you're hurting, or is it because she did something wrong?

If you actually both broke it off, and she went out and had sex shortly after, then I do not really know if I or you can blame her. Many people does so exactly to move on. Getting back on the proverbial saddle, so to speak. So what is it you feel so strongly about? Is it because she didn't mourn the loss of the relationship as much as you did, or is it simply because she's had sex with another guy?

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