Hmm.. you're making me think more. Like, why can't I tell my friends we're staying at a nice hotel, or that we're shopping for houses in the 700k to 800k range? I guess I'm worried they'd stop talking to me. I'm also worried they'd speak rudely to me... One friend I know would actually be quite volatile. Which is sad. But, she's also the friend who legit asked if we could buy her a house (...yeah) when she found out my husband's job, so she's kinda a bit odd already.

I guess I'm worried they'd no longer be my friends. That we wouldn't have anything to talk about. Or it's also cause I kinda feel terrible. My rude friend above can't make rent. My other friend's entire family can no longer afford to live in old hometown, and has to move. He also can't afford rent. Another friend is less poor, but her boyfriend is. So, they live together with his parents. They're all late 20s, but only one actually can afford an apartment and has a good job.

All I did was leave shitty hometown for much better city. I then moved three more times in undergrad to take advantage of things, and then this big move for grad school and husband's new job. They could have done that as well, but now are stuck in a cycle of poverty essentially... me saying I'm going on a second honeymoon when they can't afford rent makes me look like an ass.