Me [28F] with my now ex[30 M] for 2.5 years, seeking your experience with doing what's right/bigger picture

We just didn't have the same values and expectations in a relationship.

Family meant everything to me and the times my mom visited, he didn't do anything. Meanwhile his parents loved me because I knew how to behave and act towards them. I wanted a cat but he didn't want one because his dog (that he got while with his ex) was more important. I wanted to go out more and go on dates and he was fine with chilling at home and watching tv. I had certain boundaries in a relationship that he did not agree with.

When I broke up with him, he told me that all of these could have been worked on over the years. That he wanted to marry me and was saving for a ring for me.

He's right. It could have been worked on over the years but I just didn't have the skills and patience to do that with him. Maybe I fell out of love because our love languages and values were different.

I don't know if my current partner is my life partner because I can't see the future and we have our own share of problems. But I do know we have similar values and expectations in a relationship and it's like a silent agreement. It feels like we're dancing to the same song without the tune. Idk if that makes sense. Relationships are hard and communication is a struggle but when you know you are headed the same direction, it makes it a lot easier to want to work on the problems.

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