Before you read the below, note I'm a human being. I love, I care, I breathe, I slowly die, and I'm above all a person who accepts that in a relationship it's possible there's no wrong person, and no right.
Now onto my comment:
Really? Cmon. Cmon.
I...Have you had this happen? Has anyone had this happen?
Cmon. Yes, he will doubt her even more then. Listen to me very clearly.
He would be right to. Cmon. From his perspective everything made sense. Fuck that, here lets switch places.
I'm your wife - you're my husband. You hear from one of your trusted friends "Hey man, I visibly saw your wife making out with another man, a man you brought into your home."
Are you sure?
-Yes. I saw it with my own eyes - I know what I saw. You know me, I wouldn't joke or lie about this kind of shit.
Don't fuck with me man, are you beyond sure?
-Absolutely. Yes. I saw it. I swear on my life man.
How much do you doubt your partner? 1%? Is 1% acceptable? 10%, I mean a trusted friend just told you this and swears upon what he saw. A trusted friend. 20% Are you willing to accept a 1 in 5 chance that your partner is part of 1 in 10 whom will cheat in a relationship throughout their life? (By the way it's higher than 10%) Of course not, you chose good. Lets make that a 1 in 50 chance. How much do the odds improve for you when you have your friend who doesn't (appear to) have anything to gain by saying it, says that.
Is it now 1 in 10? Face it, the guy wasn't certain. He acted emotionally, I agree. But jesus.
I hate to say this, I truly do - but I'd likely do the same. I'm making the claim here and now, that if a friend I trusted told me she cheated, and that he saw it. I'd be open to believe him. I'd believe my partner 50% might be cheating. 50% is worth a confirmation that the child is mine. 30% is. 10% is.
If they told me years apart that I said "I perform enemas on my dog" by the second one...I'd get really fucking curious why I'm hearing this.