Me [31/F] with my husband [35/M] and his best friends [31/Ms] - we were all a tight group till the other 2 got married - I'm now one of the 'wives' and not the 'boys'. It hurts and pisses me off - I need help.

I would suggest that you let the guy "friends" go. They're being weird anyway.

It's not the wives fault, they are who they are. It's not your fault. This is all on the men - the two who cannot be upfront with their wives about what they like to do to have fun, and your husband who is expecting you to spend time with women you don't get along with, have nothing in common with - just so he can have boys night.

Don't force yourself in on guy time. The way to save your dignity in this is to let these people go entirely - be polite because they are your husbands friends (like he was to yours), but really treat them no more than acquaintances now.

Try to find more women who are similar to you, old friends maybe?

Let the husband have his "boys nights" if he wants to meet up with his friends that often. Maybe you can have the polite meeting with their wives rarely sometimes, but meeting this often is not fair to you. You're not having fun.

I feel for you, but I would honestly just end the friendship with the men and take them down to "polite acquaintance" level if they behaved this way with me.

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