Me [32 M] with my Wife [32 M/F] together for 4 years. Pokemon Go and some choices surrounding it are causing issues. Need Advice!

THat's a perfect way to confirm your suspisions. It's not about keeping up. There is no "I'm better" with Go. Sure, you'll suck at the gym battles. But you can still be there, hell you can even team up and let her do most the work. When you're out and need stuff, tell her you'd like to go walking to get your stock back up. She should be understanding and even excited - more opportunities!

And most importantly, it's when she'sd oing it to be with this guy that you need to step up and do it. Not only then, but including then. So that you can get to know this guy and you can all get along.

I feel like you're letting an insecurity interfere with an opportunity. It's when she veheemently does not want you to hang out with this guy that you put your foot down. When she says "I want to meet with this guy, yo ucan't come", that you say "Ill be happy to go with you and let you guys do your thing while I do mine, but I'm not okay with you leaving me to go see this guy".

I dunno, I just see this as a GREAT opportunity to bond. Why waste it? And why let someone else get it? You'll be behind, but that's the fun - you do it together and have fun together. She can even show you the ropes.

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