Where I was going with that was, I get it. I'm just like my mom in the sense that I love giving gifts to people, and it's like a little puzzle that you think you've figured out. You know this person so well and you know exactly what to get them! So the disappointment as the gifter comes from having gotten it all wrong.

With my mom, I would have been happy with a box of chocolate. But she instead decided to splurge on this big gift that she forsaw being a part of a bigger day. So yes, she was hurt that I didn't see it the same way. I later did communicate that I felt odd about her spending so much money on me, and that I was worried about losing it or it getting stolen. If you communicate with her, and say it's not the gesture or her understanding of what you like, but an outside element, such as cost or safety or something else, it might be an easier conversation to have.

You could maybe offer to exchange it for two smaller things, one for her and one for you, so it works to strengthen the relationship.