Oh, left out things because I tried to avoid a wall of text.
*With his father, he's been angering a lot of people after he cheated on his wife and married somebody who we all see as a gold digger (not just my opinion). She's instigating a lot of his relationship problems and we all kind of think he's not happy but couldn't be alone. He's apparently pretty needy in relationships. Most of his conversations are "one-upping" and I just don't know how to respond to that.
*With the girl, I was the new one to the group, so it was pretty easy for her to sway the opinion of people she's known for 4+ years and I've seen only a few times. I just didn't have enough leverage there.
*The guy from last night actually just apologized to me and my boyfriend for what happened. I think he was pretty drunk and woke up realizing what happened. So, I could go out again, but I'll probably just avoid the drinking part.
*And the boyfriend, well last week he just got an aspergers diagnosis. I usually question that diagnosis but his brother has a severe level of it along with being schizophrenic, so it's in the family. Also, my boyfriend admitted this week that he can't understand empathy. So, it really explains his lack of defense and understanding over things that have been happening. I posted last week about things he's done and the relationship issues, and I had over 50 comments telling me to GTFO. I'm trying to work on understanding and now that he his accepting the diagnosis, he's getting more specific help. I also agreed to couples councilling.
*I have been very harsh and cold in my past and I learned a lot of things the hard way. I really try now to work with people and understand. I tried for 3 years with his dad while he was going through a sloppy divorce. So, added stress, prescription meds and drinking factored into his moods and I'm on a list of people he's really caused some damage to. Plus, his brother was in trouble for heroin during the divorce. His female friend was drunk 75% of the time I'd see her and has a lot of relationship problems. And the guy last night, was also drunk from what I know now. I've dealt with a severe alcoholic friend in my recent past and I come from alcoholics. My friends are pretty restrained and we're all runners, so I think lifestyle choices may play a factor too. Seem sort of right?