Me [33F] with my husband [34M] married 10 years, I found out that I have precancerous cells (CIN3) caused by HPV when I went to the gyno to confirm my pregnancy. I was a virgin when I got married and have only ever been with my husband. I cant even be in the same room with him right now.

I've been diagnosed with cancerous cervical changes twice due to HPV, and I've had two colposcopies. I know it's hard, but try not to blame your husband. He had no way of knowing, as male HPV tests are fairly new. HPV is rampant and highly contagious, and the odds of getting it are high with any kind of unprotected sex. It can live in your fingertips, mouth, and the tissue around your genitals. It can also lie dormant and flair back up in times of stress (like, say, when your pregnant).

Here's the good news: Science has advanced WAY beyond what your mother and grandmother had at their disposal. Treatment options for cervical cancer and pre-cancer are good (and I mean really good). You will not die of cervical cancer. You WILL have a healthy baby, deal with your HPV even though it will suck, and go on to be a wonderful mother. to your child. A health body will fight off HPV after about two years, and start testing negative again. It's something you will always have to keep an eye on, but I promise you it is not the death sentence you are imagining. Please PM me if you have questions or just need someone who's been there.

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