he deleted the comment, but I'm sitting here FUMING, so here it is:

submitted 3 hours ago by Chesttightness

My wife gave birth to our beautiful daughter 6 weeks ago. Since then our relationship has been suffering more than I could've imagined. In have been with my wife for 9 years, married for 1.5 years, and it has for the most part been wonderful. We have always gotten along well. We tell each other everything and there are no secrets between us. We are truly best friends and I believe that we are soulmates. My wife has always had 'quirks' that are unusual to me. She is extremely sensitive to sounds (misophonia), particularly eating sounds. She absolutely cannot eat around people. She is extremely sensitive to smells and is allergic to some perfumes where she'll get headaches and a runny nose when she's around them. Some smells She hates do much that if she smells them on me she will keep her distance from me (for example, the mint smell after I brush my teeth) She is also sensitive to tastes. She also picks at the skin ok her fingers and lips, and bites the inside of her cheeks. She picks at her eyelashes and eyebrows and gets serious anxiety in social situations. She's extremely socially awkward and sometimes says things without thinking first. After the baby was born a bunch of my family members came to visit, they were explaining some of their religious traditions and my wife said 'that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard'. Despite all this she has become a wonderful mother. When she saw our daughter it was love at first sight. That little girl is everything to her. Still, the baby is very fussy and we are both sleep deprived. Unfortunately it seems like these issues have magnified since she gave birth and started working exclusively from home. At 35 weeks pregnant my wife was given the opportunity to work from home as a freelancer for a new employer, completely remotely. Since she wanted the job so badly, she neglected to tell her boss that she was pregnant thinking she wouldn't get the job if he knew she was having a baby soon. Then when the baby came, my wife literally took 10 days off and went back to working 40 hours a week minimum as her boss expects her to. I believe that this is a big contributor to her attitude shift. She doesn't neglect the baby though and somehow manages to juggle this schedule. Sometimes to make her hours she will work until 10 at night and on weekends saying that we need the money- she can't lose her job because I can't support us on my salary alone. This is somewhat true. Now, 6 weeks later it is so bad that I can't stand to be around her. I left an hour early to the office today because I just could not handle dealing with her. We haven't talked in two days. Yesterday my little sister came over and my wife didn't even greet her. In fact she groaned in disgust. She was holed up in the bedroom nursing the baby the whole time because she refuses to nurse in front of or even in the same room as anyone else besides me. My family is very close and are from a culture where this is normal. My wife's family is not. My family barely visits the baby (despite living next door to us) because they know that my wife feels bothered by them. She seems to hate them with a passion and I don't know why. My only guess is that because my wife is very reserved and antisocial, and my family is fairly boisterous and close knit that they clash hard. I can see my wife's face clench when my mother tells her what to do with the baby. I tell her to ignore the unwanted advice but I don't think that she can. I want to go out with my wife and enjoy a night out with her and take a break, so she can get out of the house for once, but it is really hard. She breast feeds exclusively and pumps, and can't seem to make any extra bottles aside from the ones we use at nighttime. My family always wants to babysit, but my wife refuses. She says that every time we get the baby back she has a strange smell on her, a different awful smell every time like someone's perfume or food, and she has to completely wash the baby to get it off. It bothers her greatly when the baby comes home wearing a blanket or an article of clothing that she didn't pack, saying it smells weird. My mother put oil on the baby's hair once (a cultural thing) and my wife flipped out- I had never seen her so distressed. Then, she doesn't like it when my older sister watches the baby because she has two young boys that my wife says are always sick, even when they aren't. My wife isn't close to her family, and most of them don't even live in our state, so there's no one else we can trust. So, date night is out of the question, even though she loves when we go out together. The couple of times we've gone out together since the baby came are the only times where I've seen a glimmer of her old self come out. She seems to really want to, but can't find a way to let her issues go. I can tell this is frustrating for her but I can't help her- I don't know what else to do. I want to see my wife happy, but she is just angry and bitter all the time. She picks fights with me constantly for trivial things and antagonizes me until I also get mad and I curse at her and storm out. Sex is of course not something we are planning to do yet. My wife absolutely hates the way she looks now (she's always hated her body even prepregnancy), even though I love her body and can barely keep my hands off of her. She's even more beautiful now that she's the mother of my child. I can't even put into words how gorgeous she is to me. I left the house for a few hours last night to get my head straight and it hurt like hell leaving my wife and baby there alone for even longer. When I came back I brought her some food because I know she didn't eat but she didn't eat it because I guess I got something that she didn't like. After that we haven't spoken since. The other night she cried a bit and said that she didn't want to be with me anymore, that she was tired of me and just wanted me to go away. I know she didn't mean it. She's tired and frustrated with our fussy baby, and her hormones are fucked up beyond belief. I don't know what else to do except for stay out of my wife's way. She doesn't trust therapists because of a bad experience as a child when they prescribed her medication (she hated the way the pills made her feel). I can't help but feel that our once amazing relationship is ending. Please help, I don't know what to do. Tl;dr My wife is experiencing serious mood swings and depression since having our child. She's taking everything out on me, she seems to hate me and I cannot find a solution to all this besides leaving for good, but I love her. She is my world and I can't stand seeing us like this.