Oh my god. It's like you married the NSA.

But seriously, he sounds like he has paranoid personality disorder or something. My father in law has that from working with toxic chemicals years back. He's a really wonderful guy, but he can really fly off the rocker from time to time.

If I'm right about PPD there's a possibility of him becoming violent, so I would suggest secretly talking to a lawyer first and see what your options are, and start making plans to move out as quietly as possible. Make sure to save as much money as you can. Also to prepare for worst case scenario pick up a copy of "How to Disappear" at your local bookstore and pay cash.