Me (38f) with my hubby (37m), 4 yrs strong. Got a text from him at about 620 saying he was washing the car and then would be home. Then 20 minutes later that followed up with "I won't be home tonight and I can't tell you why. Love you".

You are being very dramatic right now. Sorry to say. But this isn't a rational response to what the original commentor was saying.

You don't actually know the things you listed out either - he may not be near his phone during this altercation when he isn't able to be home- also you said the family NEAR YOU is safe and sound. Which would infer that there is family not near you. How do you know he isn't trying to help one of them?

Also you were done with him because of a text. He isn't being disrespectful to you at all- if anything he is being distant and he may have a good excuse why. It may not even be that he doesn't trust you either- it could be that the situation he is in right now would be better left to being talked to in person because there are too many details. I've done that plenty of times with my SO.

Also he didn't hurt you on purpose! He barely said anything to you! YOU KNOW NOTHING. You keep assuming and assuming and being so dramatic. You trusted him not to what? Because so far HE DIDNT DO ANYTHING. STOP.

You say you don't need therapy but your reactions so far suggest otherwise. You are a mess.

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