Me [39F] with my husband [41M] of 12 years. I found out on Friday that he's cheating on me and he's now closed all of our accounts and is going to kick me out of the house.. I have no idea what to do.

You know going to be honest here, usually I'm pretty reasonable with stuff like "you guys should split half here"... but he gave you an STD, made it clear he doesn't care about the children, and also is trying to take everything of yours.

This is a lawyers wet dream. Please write an update when you end up with full custody, high child support, the house, and half of everything else, so we can all praise you on winning against a selfish asshole.

Also, for the time being if you need food, they have food banks you can go to, especially around Christmas that will help. Since you have proof that he cheated, I'd also try and get money for your medical bills from him. Also call a lock person, see if you can work something out where they change the locks and you can pay them back later if you tell them your situation maybe? Or when you get money do this asap. Talk to your lawyer about this last part too, to make sure that it would be smart to do.

Sorry this happened, especially around Christmas. He's a complete asshole.

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