Zaddy is that you?

... just kidding!!! I'm also a female who's dating a man 19 years older than me, who is associated with a university. I've also snooped on him before! I really thought you were my SO for a minute there!! Whew!!! Reddit scares me sometimes!

Don't mind what people say about the age gap - it's an American thing. The American perception worships youthfulness and gets dramatically disturbed by youth gravitating toward the aging. The rest of the world is cool with it.

I've always dated older men because they're generally more mature, interesting and honestly much better in bed than guys my own age. As for the snooping - I did it to to my SO too! He hated it. Of course he did! But he was also very patient with me - explained to me why it was absolutely not okay. Then he asked me not to do it again, that he changed his email password.

Then he did something surprising - he told me what he changed his email password to. He wanted me to know that he trusted me, and he asked me if I would please not snoop, even though now it was easier than ever to snoop. I was kind of thrown off by that gesture of total trust on his part. He really had nothing to hide. This man loves me and trusts me. And i did not want to destroy that trust with snooping. I promised him that I wouldn't snoop again, and I've kept that promise. Of course if you have a high-security job you probably won't want to share your password. BUT I think it's important to show her that you really trust her in some way, and have nothing to hide. Make her feel secure and loved and she'll feel bad for snooping :P it's that simple. Don't worry, it'll all work out in the end. I wish you a wonderful and fulfilling relationship :)