I definitely think this is true. I’m struggling with it bc he’s had periods where he hasn’t shown up & he’s definitely undervaluing the things I have done in recent times & has focused on the same 3 issues over & over. AND I have 3 doctors appointments coming up in the next month for my health (I have to get surgery & am in pain nearly every day which is contributing big to my mental health) & so it’s certainly acute.

He also could have talked to me about it nicely & I would have found ways to meet him more often, just maybe in different ways but no less valuable. I didn’t know it was as bad as it was for him. I’ve been in a lot of pain & losing sleep, so I’ve been just exhausted.

You’re right, however, & I can’t decide what’s too much for him.