Nah. I said he doesn’t need to be my life preserver & I don’t expect him to do that. I just said I do expect him to not yell at me & talk to me nicely about stuff & that is it. He doesn’t have to do anything extra for me. & he absolutely could have talked to me about this when I asked. I didn’t expect him to just cater to me. I did plenty of meaningful things for him & at this point I can’t illustrate the issue in full or try to describe all of the nuances on a stupid Reddit thread.

I genuinely asked for advice because I have been temporarily sick & down & very willing to work on things & he’s stuck in a negative sentiment override despite the 6+ months of things being fine & things being intermittently great even while I’ve been sick, just not as good as they’ve been or could be. I genuinely don’t want to break up over this, & I do feel like it’s unfair to get yelled at when you’re sick & it’s fair to ask to be spoken to kindly. I don’t think it’s fair of him to criticize me as harshly as he has or tell me I was never a good partner to him, when that’s not true, & that’s all. This is a very common relationship issue when someone only sees the negative things in another person. I have said multiple times to him that I’m sorry I’m not feeling my best, it will be better when I’m feeling better after I get surgery, I’m struggling a lot & thanks for being patient, & I want to work on things & have ideas on how to do that. He doesn’t have to deal & that’s fine. I’ve been there for him when he’s been depressed & doing nothing for us & actually telling me he expected me to put his needs above mine. So this just sucks. I don’t understand what advice you’re trying to give me.