So your comment made me think quite a bit because he has told me to pick what I bring up. When he told me this, I thought it would be an easy fix. The problem is, it seems like he is the one making the big deal. When I suppose I "nagged" about the laundry, I was expecting the conversation to end along the lines of "I didn't realize I did that, I'll pick up the slack" or "K, now I know." Instead it was like this really long conversation about how judgmental I am. I would not have brought it up if I knew it was going to be a 30 minute discussion. But, I guess that is my problem. In my perspective I am saying a casual comment, or making a quick point.

I agree we have communication issues.