Oh...I'm well into the 40+ partners myself as a male, which as we've established, is harder for us. Not trying to brag, but I'm one of the most ripped (white) guys I know. Been working out for 20 years straight. But there has been a serious decrease in the belly notch frequency since I hit my thirties and have still refused to settle down. I also refuse to lower my standards, but I really need to. I travel light, don't get attached, and value my own time too much. I'm also not as tan, or, let's be honest, young as I used to be. And my hair is thinning, haha. One of my roommates, however, eats like crap and has quite a potbelly, but he has no standards so he's pulling way more than me. I just can't do it. My OTHER roommate, the one that read the article...is just a waste of life. Wakes up, smokes a menthol, rips a bowl, on weekends immediately cracks a Busch light, and continues the process throughout the day. And he eats fast food like it's his job. He doesn't clean up after himself either. He gets...NO play.