Well, I’m very glad that he’s around your age and not another... Never mind. Phew

You clearly know a lot about safe BDSM at your age, let that stay with you.

1. I think you’re much more kink-aware (also ‘kink nerd’) than he is, so it’s valid that you feel he’s being dishonest. It seems like he’s happy fulfilling your needs in the way you instruct him to, search ‘service top’.

Labels aside, it may simply be that he’s not invested in this world as you are. And that’s valid while he’s still exploring his sexuality. It doesn’t mean he’s less invested in your relationship- you’d still be good friends afterwards- just that he’s still figuring himself out which again, is blak I’d.

1. Communicate, revise, evaluate are all must-dos, and I’ll add just explore for your situation. It remains valid that you want, crave, and need more.

2. In the meantime, I think you should limit your consumption of BDSM content of all types- age aside- it will inevitably make you feel like something is missing and, something will be missing because your first D/s mustn’t be perfect so in no particular order,

Have fun Stay safe And try not to overthink it