I’ve been this woman and had habits basically like what you described. It was always “men are cold and heartless” and never truly empathizing with the pressure this kind of behavior put on them. Nothing was ever good enough because I was asking them to meet impossible standards. Of course, these relationships didn’t work out, and after it happened a few times I started realizing I was the common denominator.

It can be really tough not to act on deep mistrust and insecurity like that. Sometimes these tendencies stem from experiences that are really sad. Nevertheless, people like this need to work on resolving their issues, not dig their heels into their behavior and insist everyone in the relationship submit to their fears.