I'm late to the party, but what the heck...

Personally, I would rather couples. The idea that you want to have sex without your wife or husband is material for divorce. I am not going to be party to that. I believe a strong household starts with a strong marriage. If you want to have sex with other people without your primary partner, that's a red flag to me.

We're currently in a relationship with another tightly bonded couple that is madly in love, like us. I truly believe a non-monogamous relationship is one that adds to your primary relationship not one that competes with it.

All that being said, I am sorry cannot find a standup guy. I think most of us are happily married or won't play without their wives.

Best of luck.