Men, if women reading this sub remember only one thing...what would you want it to be?

  1. No hints. PERIOD. Some women’s hints are too subtle they are invisible. So it is just best to be clear about your intentions so there is no room for interpretation or wrong assumptions are made.

  2. Be yourself, stop worrying about what other women think about how you look. You are not trying to pick up women (unless that is your intention). You are trying to pick up men and men love a variety of things, even things that we have no clue they find attractive. So you can’t go wrong just being yourself. There is a man out there that loves your brand of womanhood. This is my absolute favorite. I read a guy loved a girl with glasses and no make-up just gave me so much hope out there that another man would feel the same.

  3. Stop lumping men into the same category. Not all men are the same and not all men are looking for the same thing. Treat each encounter individually. The reason we assume they are all the same is because the really vocal/aggressive ones are getting the most attention. The quiet, low-key, discreet guys are getting a bad rap for the vocal asshole population of men.

  4. DONT DISMISS THE FRIEND. Maybe this should be number one. Personally, I prefer a relationship to stem from a friendship since those are the best kind. But for the rest of the women out there, they treat these “nice guys” as invisible. Don’t friend zone these guys, they make awesome boyfriends and husbands. Even more so because they took the time and effort to know you intimately.

  5. Women are emotional and act on their emotions, men are more fact driven and act on facts. So if you think and feel something has happened with no proof to back it up, obviously they are going to think you are crazy. Approach is key too. Don’t come off as overly emotional, just lay out the facts, give the reasoning for your conclusion and men will be more open to what you are saying.

  6. Men are as emotional as we are. Just better at either delivery of how they feel through actions without saying it or they don’t know how to express it. Don’t assume there is an emotional void there. They got the feels too.

  7. We did not grow up in the 50’s were the men do everything. Times have changed, women can pick up the phone too and call. 3 day waiting rule is stupid and needs to be thrown out.

  8. Men can date just about any woman depending on their end goal (just to have fun, just to get laid, etc) and can just focus on the purely physical. But they actually have specific criteria for a relationship (emotional maturity, outside interest, intelligence, the long term stuff that does not fade with your looks). So men do think past their penis.

  9. Men face rejection more keenly than women since they do most of the approaching. A lot of them have to summon up every ounce of courage to ask a woman out. We can be a little more gentle (if we can) in letting them down. Granted some women get asked maybe 20 times that day and are annoyed, but this is the guy’s first approach so he is unaware we are annoyed by that time. A little kindness goes a long way.

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