Men, please know it's completely ok to be emotional and feel vulnerable, especially in a serious committed relationship.

Um how about you break the chain and end the toxicity yourself then?

How do you you suggest we do that? Just accept getting the very high risk of being punished for it every time we do open up? How empathetic of you.

If you date a girl and she shuts you off because you get emotional, you should be emotionally mature enough (if you feel you're mature enough to date) to know that that was one bad experience and doesn't describe all girls.

Literally every guy I've ever talked to about this has said it was most of the relationships they've ever had. Not that they had no emotional support, but the real difficult stuff was generally off limits and you can't demonstrate weakness when talking about it.

Its a nice thought that we could all just never date women like that, but the problem is it's the vast majority of women. Dumping those girls would likely mean never having a relationship again.

Men (as confirmed by this sub) don't do this but instead pretend all girls are like this so they play the victims.

Right, victim blame it away.

I along with many other girls are showing that it's simply not true that all girls are toxic in this way.

You've only shown the opposite. We've told you about those experiences here, you've victim blamed, told us we're toxic, shamed us, effectively told us to 'man up' and get over it, and say we need to fix the problem ourselves.

If you fail to believe that, you can't deny that the issue is on men.

Right if we don't accept what you say we're at fault. I can't believe you really don't see that you're only proving the opposite of what you claim to be saying.

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