Despite what many say: I don’t believe men and women cannot be friends, but it can be very hard for most, and some will never achieve this. It takes a very different state of mind: stop talking to a gender and just talk to a human. I have also lost female friends who eventually decided I was their “true destiny” and that was very hard to go through.

I think the fall back reaction (and I also felt this way the first couple times it happened) was that “we cannot be friends” because it’s too painful to become frends with someone and then lose them over something like hormones.

Eventually, i just decided I will be friends with those who want to be friends, and I will lose the friends who chose to push beyond frendship - and that is just life. But I would rather continue to try to make friends and sometimes suffer the hurt of loss then to never make friends again.