I used ok cupid and bumble for a while looking for a relationship. Up front on my profile I state that I take things slow and am looking for something serious. Had a good amount of first and second dates, but typically fell off because I would get no signals whatsoever that the women were interested. If I didn't go for a kiss on the first date (which is uncomfortably fast for me) I would never hear from them again. The ones that would agree to follow up dates would never message me first, ever. I get that the male has to pursue, but man, I'm not interested in chasing someone who doesn't show any enthusiasm. Could have just been bad luck, but after about 6 months I decided to take a break. Haven't gone back since.