My first boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend) and I had an intense emotionally challenging relationship. Strong feelings and emotions were new to us as we were only 15 at the time. The relationship was too much for poor 15 year old me to handle and I ended the relationship after two years. He was both a cheating, lying asshole during the relationship and also sweet, considerate and so loving, it was confusing.

After I finally ended the relationship, he couldn't seem to move on. Constantly texting, asking for me back, saying how much he loved and missed me. That soon died out. He then began to engage in publicly homophobic behaviour, personally against my brother. Anyways fast forward five years. We are now 21.

Our friend group is the same, unfortunately. He will constantly approach me (drunk) and go on and on about personal and intimate memories we share, and how much he loves me and misses me. It makes my skin crawl. He goes on and on about how wonderful my new partner is, but he is obviously not genuine. All this I palmed off as drunken, 'not over me' behaviour.

Until.

One night I was in the city with friends and had checked in to a club on Facebook. About half an hour later I started getting a flurry of texts saying "you look beautiful" "i love the way you dance" "i miss you"

I panicked and said to my friends we have to leave.

We did and he messaged that he was upset I had left. He started liking EVERYTHING I had ever posted on facebook, dating back to 2009.

It was not okay.

I had to get my dad involved, and he had to go over to his place (still living with his parents), and essentially threaten him and say if this behaviour continues we are getting the police involved.

He hasn't said anything since. And he stays away from me at friends gatherings now. He is always watching though.