Men should have the legal form of abortion available to them.

I'm sorry, from where are you pulling the idea that these are the only options?

Sorry, you're right. I assumed the rapist would get custody (which is still possible in a lot of states). I've edited it to correct. Still, not much better.

And it's not healthy testicles that determine parenthood. A DNA test determines parenthood, which is only required in the case of the father

If being a biological father is enough to make you responsible for paying child support, than as long as one produces sperm, there is nothing one can do to prevent oneself from having to pay child support. You can lower the risk, nothing more.

Consent to sex is not consent to parenthood, naturally, but if a child ends up existing, well then frankly, tough shit.

You make it sound like you think it's something that just inevitably happens after conception.

You consented to take part in an activity with the potential creating a life

False, in the ethically significant sense.

This is the underlying source of our disagreement, but more on that later.

If it makes me a bigot to say that no one has a right to just dump the responsibility for a child onto another person and then walk away and wash their hands of the kid, I will wear that badge.

No, you aren't a bigot for saying agency must be in proportion to responsibility. You may be, however, if you insisted on allowing on gender to exercise that authority for far longer than the other could without sufficient justification (and bodily autonomy cannot be that justification, if you don't support my proposals).

Also you're missing the point of the metaphor. The resulting child is the collision.

I understood your metaphor completely. I think it is actually you who hasn't, which is again, hugely significant.

Here's your scenario, reworded a bit:

A man and a woman go racing, which results in a crash (both are equally responsible), which unavoidably requires them to get the woman's car fixed. Conclusion: the man and the woman should share the costs of getting the woman's car fixed.

In this case, sex is analogous to racing, the crash is analogous to conception, and getting the car fixed it analogous to raising the child. Thus, the analogous scenario is:

A man and a woman have consensual sex, which results in conception (both are equally responsible), which unavoidably requires them to raise . Conclusion: the man and the woman should share the costs of raising the child

Note the bold part. Note how, in the presence of a right to abortion, that's false. Let's correct that:

A man and a woman have consensual sex, which results in conception (both are equally responsible), which requires them to either get an abortion, put the child up for adoption, or raise the child. Conclusion: the man and the woman should share the costs of raising the child if the woman want become a mom

Now, let's go back to your racing analogy. Now, since we have more than one option after the crash/conception, we need to change things slightly. Let's make the crash relatively minor such that just fixing some minor dents returns things to as close to "the way they were before" as possible, and make "get an abortion, put the child up for adoption, or raise the child" analogous to "fix the dents", and "raise the child" analogous to "replace the car".

A man and a woman go racing, which results in a crash (both are equally responsible), which requires them to either fix the dents or replace woman's the car. Conclusion: the man and the woman should share the costs of replace the car if the woman wants a new one.

I trust how you can see that this is blatantly unfair. Sure, the woman has expenses which she can't avoid, she shouldn't be able to use that to force the man to help her cover the much greater costs of buying a completely new car. But that same logic applies to LPS.

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