Men, what do you wish people would stop asking you?

you are taking no responsibility for any of these things. nobody who took responsibility for these things would list them as barriers or flaws, because they'd realize that they had control over them. a barrier or flaw is something that you don't control, like you're 5 feet tall but women want to date taller men. even that can be overcome, but it takes effort.

the stuff you listed on the other hand is like me saying that my problem is that i have a pile of dirty dishes in the sink. that's not my problem - my problem is that i haven't washed the dishes. the key here is that i am the problem. it's my responsibility. the problem is not some external thing like dishes, it's me.

once you realize this, you'll see that a 'problem' like dirty dishes isn't actually a problem, because you can control it. similarly, all of your other problems fit under this category.

as for jordan peterson i think he's an egomaniacal hack...but he does have some solid, baseline points related to personal responsibility that every person should already know.

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