The first minute she started the emotional abuse I broke up with her that second and asked her to leave my place. She wouldn't leave, tried to win me back by trying to get me to fuck her. She still wouldn't leave and rather than throwing her out forcefully, I just decided to leave myself. When I left my own place to drive away, she blocked my car, wouldn't let me get in, stood in front of my car and wouldn't let me drive away. After I finally left, she tells everyone that I cheated on her and calls the police to tell them I threw her down the stairs and some other fucked up violent crap. I get a call from a detective a month later that investigating domestic violence. She has no proof at all, just her word against mine. Her mom had warned me the next day that she was doing this and I recorded her mom saying that she knows her daughter too well and believes she's making it all up. Didn't stop the detective from investigating and $3000 and 6 months later, I had to hire a lawyer and am still trying to prevent myself from getting arrested and having it go on my record.
All because she's someone who decided to play victim in our fucked up society that believes anything a pretty girl says.
Very hard to trust women anymore and, as sad as it is, whenever I read these college campus hoo-hah's about "rape culture" I find myself thinking how easy it is for a pretty girl to make up an abuse or rape allegation for some attention.
The reality is that I don't have anywhere to go to talk to about this. I know that now my trust issues with women is caused by this and I don't like it but it is what it is. Any therapist is going to cost me money and they probably won't believe me anyway or at the very least, they'll be polite but instead of helping me, they'll just label me. Any friend that I talk to may or may not believe me. If they do believe me, nothing changes. If they don't believe, I've just lost a friend and now they think I'm a POS that hits women. I haven't told everyone in my family, but the few that I have tell me that they warned me she was emotionally unstable and OMG, why did I let myself get into this?! Yeah, not helpful at all... That's what I get for being with a girl who I thought was sweet. I can't trust anyone at all because I know that the minute anyone hears that a young pretty sweet-looking girl is accusing a man of anything, the public will believe her. I've been with a lot of girls in the last 6 months but all just hookups because I like sex, but I'm too nervous to get to know them any longer than a few dates for fear that they'll falsely accuse me of something.
Any time my lawyer calls me, I start shaking from adrenaline and have to calm down for an hour afterwards because his call could be the one where he tells me that my case is fucked, I lose my career, and my reputation is fucked in the worst possible way. Any time a number that is similar to the detective, the same thing happens. My career is dependent on this, which is why any sane person looking at my accomplishments can tell that I'm not the kind of person who would get angry enough to hit someone and risk losing it all. Factually it's wrong and logically it's wrong. But, it's completely up to other people who may or may not have had a bad day or have it out for me.
I have sat down and made a backup plan for my life if all goes to shit and that's how I cope. There is no sympathy for men in this world. You either have to deal and get yourself out of any shit or stay in it.