Men who couldn't get dates / sex, what changed things for you?

I'm a woman ten years older than you and I remember a divide in my life when I was very single and had zero interest in the men I attracted and then became very sought after. It had to do with courage. I said "fuck it" and went after my heart's desire and that meant building a life worth living. Ultimately, in taking more risks I incidentally got noticed more by more compatible men and was able to have more choice in a good life partner.
My ultimate learning here I pass to you is it is easier to do the right thing than it is to coast and do what feels safe and "easy." I was the same person before and after, just acted more courageously and men found that hot. Given that courage is gender neutral, I share my story.

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