I share that I've had negative experiences, from which I've sadly had to learn from and adjust. Your takeaway is that I'm bad at judging the character of potential partners and my opinion is borderline mysogynistic. Yeah, okay.

I believe what you're saying about your own experiences, and I think you've been extremely lucky. Happy for you; really. But for you to imply it's due to superior judgement or some such.. feels a bit like Elon Musk telling his employees they just need to work harder. I appreciate your attempt to connect and advise, but you don't even know how out of touch you sound right now.

And for the record, I don't think it's necessarily a gendered thing. I wouldn't be at all shocked if I dated a guy and had a similar experience. I only refer to women because, well, that's who I date and that's what OP was asking about.