I'm about to turn 27, I lost my dad when I was pretty freshly 18 and it destroyed me.

My parents were arguing (for about a week) at the time when he was in a car accident and rushed to the hospital. We (my ENTIRE family... Mom, Sister, Cousins, Grandparents) spent three days in that hospital and at the end of it, the brain trauma he suffered took him and I ended up going home without my dad.

I was lost, my mom was lost. For the next few months, I was numb. I failed out of community college because I didn't care about doing homework anymore. I lost a 3 year relationship with my high-school sweetheart because I became distant and cold. I blamed my mom for their arguments (in my head, I never told her this), which was unfair to her.

My mom somehow maintained the ability to go to work, I assume because I hadn't left the house at that point and she was still supporting me for the most part.

My mom and I weren't nearly as close as my dad and I when he passed, but the experience has helped us grow closer together because she was there for me during it, feeling the same things I was.

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I'm not sure if you're here for suggestions or to just get some outside perspectives, but I can relate to him on some levels. If he is anything like me, which of course neither of us know, it will pass. As they say, time heals all wounds. It still hurts knowing that you'll never see that loved one again, but it gets easier.

If you love him and want to be with him, try to be a sense of comfort for him. But if he is an ass for months like I was, that's really just growing up and realizing that in life comes loss, and to instead of sinking into a deep depression about what could have been (or regrets), instead make the best of every day you have left.

Make time for loved ones because you are not guaranteed tomorrow and neither are they.