I realized my ex wife was significantly less excited about the prospect if I attempted every night. It made me really sad but I was being continuously denied if I asked every night or even every other night. It went on for so long I concluded that saying no to me was an exercise in saying no to all the people in her life she didn't say no to, or people pleased.

A while after arriving at my schedule where she actually seemed willing (roughly 4 days) she started resenting me for not continuously chasing her only to be turned down, and I noticed the dildo we once shared started moving in the never closed drawer and she never asked me to charge it anymore.

I kept asking for changes, for her to return to her former self, only for her to retreat farther into a cave of overeating and retail therapy. I did what I could. She should me repeatedly that she was unwilling to change.