Men who work with a lot of attractive woman, how does this impact your relationship and how tempted are you to cheat on your SO?

Alright, so I was watching TV with my boyfriend last night and I was seriously in the mood. I was pawing all over him, trying to get him hard, kissing his neck, etc. He watched the entire show and didn’t say anything about “I’m tired tonight” or “I’m gonna nail you after this show is over.” So the show finished and I thought, great, finally it’s time! I got on top and he still wasn’t super responsive. I mean, a tiny little bit. But he also yawned. So I figured he was too tired. So I stopped trying and started to go to sleep.

I tried not to feel like I wasn’t attractive enough. He has every right to not want sex every single time I do. But then when I started to go to sleep he was upset that I gave up. And then he tried initiating sex that time but I already felt tired and unsexy.

So we are talking about him staying focused on the show because he wanted to watch it. Totally fine with me, it was a funny show. But I pointed out that I wasn’t able to get him hard and I just assumed he wasn’t interested. So he tells me “I’m not sure if I should say this but I work with about 70% women, many of whom I find attractive.” And he started telling me how he’s able to shut that off to get the job done or even “focus on just the conversation when we are sitting around bullshitting because sometimes that’s part of the job.” And he was trying to make the point that that’s what he was doing during the show. But I felt like, why did he tell me that?? I didn’t want to know that. I do already struggle with my body image and I don’t want to be sitting around worried about his job while he’s working.

How’s a girl to handle this situation?

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