Firstly, I realize this will differ for each individual and every situation. However, I'm looking for some different opinions. My partner seems less interested/active sexually than my previous one, and I mistook it for disinterest. However after we talked, he said he has always had a low drive. He says he really enjoys it and he's very attracted to me, but can't always "perform".

A few other things.. he has low self esteem despite being very conventionally attractive. I reaffirm my attraction to him emotionally AND physically often but he talks about other women who rejected him sometimes like it means I'm wrong. He also has periods of depression. It's still too new to know how frequent or how related that is to his low libido. And the other thing.. I have a somewhat high drive when I'm in a trusting monogamous situation. So we're at a disconnect. I'm a very physical person. I need it to feel wanted and loved.

He doesn't seem overly into experimenting. Just basic one or two male-centric positions. I don't want to call him selfish because his personality is entirely generous and considerate, just not in bed lol. He expresses that he feels badly that I don't "get off" and I tell him I still enjoy it but gently hint maybe if we tried some other things it could work... I'm hesitant to outight ask him to try new things because he has expressed this low drive and I don't want him to feel uncomfortable or guilty. I want him to want to, y'know?

All this talk about consent and coercion has me so freaked out, and I feel like a perv for initializing now. Gah.