Why is "men and women can't be friends" such a common opinion?

It's ok and no worries. It was a wonderful friendship at the time. In hindsight, he lied and held intentions I was not aware of. It was not as honest as I thought, and due to that I feel betrayed. Meaning, I look back at our experiences together and I know that half of the time he was only half as honest as I was. While leading me on to believe we had a relationship like bff-siblings. Today I know that the only reason he went to Africa was with the hope we would hook up, or I would realize how much and deeply I was attracted to him. He admitted to not being interested in any of the things we did but only in me. I felt mislead and fooled. This became clear when he tried to convince me to split with my current SO even though everything was wonderful with the argument "you shouldn't settle, what if someone better shows up". The motives he held made it all stink.

It was a long time ago now. All I know is that trust and honesty is the foundation most of my relations are built upon. Perhaps there's something in my personality that makes me feel this way. I even shared a (double)bed with him a couple of times and had no clue he wanted me to have his kids! I'm telling you, had I known.. nah.

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