Ah, that had crossed my mind in the middle of writing my reply, how maybe I did not understand your point as well as I first thought I did. I was too deep to turn back though and I figured making this post would be easier than starting over or trashing all that text and just moving on, and there likely are some who could use reading that.

I see what you're post is saying now and your point. I'm not all too familiar with current E Asia politics but I know how heated the "rivalries" get and can imagine how political posturing often involves digging out all sorts of deep nasty old dirt on others and sending it under a microscope while conveniently avoiding even mentioning their own connection to similar offenses. We see it all over the world, especially former conflict areas, and it is ugly.

And I certainly know how even when people may have a legitimate concern/point that needs to be addressed that they can cheapen it's impact by (repeatedly) bringing it up especially when the timing is inappropriate or if there are ulterior motives in doing so. Worse when it's already been largely resolved, at least as much as we can expect, and the issue is dragged out only to cause embarrassment or whatever, very much lacking class when that happens. Reminds me of couples who argue often and know exactly how to hurt each other and have no issues with saying the very thing that will hurt the most no matter how secret or inappropriate or in the past it is considered or who else is around to hear. Not that injustices should be forgotten completely as if they never happened but no one should have to repeatedly go back and re-answer and re-apologize for their worst behavior at any time that someone wants to shame them or question their character. Apologies obviously don't work that way and acting as though they do displays a lack of grace and understanding that part of demanding an apology is being willing to yourself at least take one step down the road that leads to forgiveness and reciprocate even if only in baby steps at first in reconciliation. Though surely the issue is more complex than that. It does make me feel a bit happy that in the US we have no ancient enemy neighbors, seems like a giant headache no matter who you are and something I'd grow tired of at the end of a week forget 1000 years.