[META] This is what women deal with on these subs.

Sigh. So like, I get it. I don't in any way condone his behavior, but I get it, I get where he is coming from. If you're even remotely awkward, socially inept, or outside the standard of desirability then it can be really hard to be a man nowadays. Not saying women don't have their own burdens, but for guys like me some of the heaviest shit in life is being invisible in society. Every adult man, even before online dating and the like became a thing, will tell you that dating is a numbers game. They'd tell you to harden your heart to rejection, and take it in stride. I don't know about you, but for me that isn't easy. Then the apps came along and any chance of your actual personality winning through flew out the window. Now you must be a poet, a wordsmith, an engagement machine both unique and interesting not to mention responsive but not too responsive to even have a chance for someone to deign to open the door to basic fucking conversation with you. The barrier to entry has raised even higher, but just harden your heart and keep trying, a numbers game and all that. Harden it enough and maybe you start to lose empathy. Maybe when you play a numbers game long enough you stop seeing people as people, and maybe, the negativity from shouting for any attention at all into the void some day boils over and gets vented out into the only place that exists, the same void. Not like any person is on the other side of that silence anyway, just another number. Its awful for you, it is, and nobody deserves it, but like I said, I don't approve, but man, I get it. Sorry.

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